Alright, here is the dilemma: My mother wants me to put a relaxer in her hair
Yeah, you know that stinky stuff that makes your eyes water and your nose dry up and your hair to fall limp? Yeah that stuff. I hate that stuff and I don't want to go near it ever again. I have put color in her hair before, and I almost died from all the fumes that crap gave off then. Now she wants to kill me by putting a relaxer in her hair!
I am not as militant as I was when I first started my journey, but there are some things that I just do not feel comfortable doing, and this is one of them. We do not know that much about relaxers and what side effects they cause, or how dangerous they are in general. But my mother doesn't care... she wants her fresh relaxer.
She is having surgery tomorrow and she wants to put the relaxer in just in case she has to take her wig off. I tried to tell her she doesn't need it, but she doesn't want to hear that, she wants her fresh relaxer.
I don't want to give in, but I don't want to be "mean" either by not doing it, knowing nobody else is going to do it for her, and she is my mother and you only get one. What would you do in this situation?