Monday, May 31, 2010

Jesus Be a Beautician....

Alright, here is the dilemma: My mother wants me to put a relaxer in her hair

Yeah, you know that stinky stuff that makes your eyes water and your nose dry up and your hair to fall limp? Yeah that stuff. I hate that stuff and I don't want to go near it ever again. I have put color in her hair before, and I almost died from all the fumes that crap gave off then. Now she wants to kill me by putting a relaxer in her hair!

I am not as militant as I was when I first started my journey, but there are some things that I just do not feel comfortable doing, and this is one of them. We do not know that much about relaxers and what side effects they cause, or how dangerous they are in general. But my mother doesn't care... she wants her fresh relaxer.

She is having surgery tomorrow and she wants to put the relaxer in just in case she has to take her wig off. I tried to tell her she doesn't need it, but she doesn't want to hear that, she wants her fresh relaxer.

I don't want to give in, but I don't want to be "mean" either by not doing it, knowing nobody else is going to do it for her, and she is my mother and you only get one. What would you do in this situation?


  1. Why is no one else willing to do it? Are they not doing it out of safety concerns? You might want to speak with her about those reasons. If it's not safety reason, and you don't think it will do any severe damage, maybe you can just give it to her to make her happy. This is a tough one.

  2. It really is! I have principles and I like to stand by them, without wavering. Although her hair has been thinning, and I do not believe perms are safe, no one (besides me) has advised her not to relax. And when I said that no one would put in the perm, I meant between me and my sis. Ugh! I'm glad a solution was finally reached though, that is for sure!



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