If it isn't one thing it's another right? You thought you had your entire natural hair routine down to a "t" and then your hair starts flaking on you. Been there, done that. I've had so many setbacks over the years it ain't even funny. Take a look see:
Color/transitioning hair setback of 2007:
Incomplete splits/waiting too long to detangle my hair setback of 2009:
So if you are looking for a shoulder to lean on during your natural hair journey then you have found the right sister over here. I can relate.
As a kid, I never had super long hair, and it wasn't until I went natural that I believed that I could ever achieve it. After each setback, I got more and more discouraged. But I know that with each setback I can make a comeback. And you can too. Learn why your hair is breaking, why you are getting split ends, why your hair is knotting and make a change for the better.
Don't get caught up in what the next natural hair chick is doing and comparing your progress to hers. Focus on your own hair. Yes there are some people who got it right on the first try, but there are many more of us who have been at it for years. That is why this thing is called a "natural hair journey," because it truly is a path that is unique to each individual based on your own hair needs. You may not get a solid hair routine down until your second or third year natural, and that is okay. There is nothing wrong with you or your hair.
So don't beat yourself up. As long as you are willing to work for it, you will learn how to master your hair. Don't give up or throw in the towel.