Tuesday, May 31, 2011

No Permission to Love ME

I don't need the permission of other people to love ME. 
I don't need the confirmation of other people to know my nappy hair is beautiful, because I already know it is.
-- Ms-gg

This blog entry is inspired by some of the comments I see from new naturals who become upset when others criticize their decision to embrace their natural hair.  Truth be told, although you may see the beauty in your hair, there are a lot more people who do not, and probably never will.  And that is not going to change anytime soon.  We live in a society, in a world where straight hair is seen as the epitome of beauty, and African kinky hair is at the very bottom of the totem poll being shoved into the dirt and spit on.  It is what it is.  This way of thinking goes back way before any of us were born, and it is subconsciously planted into the minds of many us.

  If you want to rock your natural hair you are going to have to love your hair first.  Do not look for external validation, because what if you never get it? If no one ever tells you your hair is beautiful, that they decided to go natural too because they love your nappy texture, is that going to change your decision to stay natural?  I hope not.

You are going to have to hold your head up high and love you more than you ever did before because a lot of times, natural hair can bring out the ugly in people. I'm not talking about natural hair making you look ugly, but I am talking about natural hair can make other people act ugly.  People may say cruel things to you, and sometimes these people are jealous because you are wearing your hair natural and with pride.

Also, I don't know if you have noticed this or not, but there are a lot of hurt and abused black people walking around in this world.  Their mama said they were ugly, daddy said they were ugly, the kids in grade school teased them back in 1982 because they had buck shots not just in the back of their hair, but all over their hair- there are some people walking around on this earth who are still carrying around all this hurt from 20, 30, 40 years ago.  They are still hurting today.  Seeing you hurt just as much as they did brings pleasure to their hurt souls.  Misery loves company.  Why give them what they want?  Why play into their games?  Don't. 

Someone says that your hair is ugly, tell them that your God does not make mistakes.  Tell them that God made you in His image and because of that, your hair is beautiful.  What other people walking this earth has hair like us?  Our hair is truly unique and beautiful and I don't care how many relaxers you get, how often you bleach your skin, how many nose jobs you get to change your African nose, that nappy hair of ours is one characteristic of your African self that you cannot deny, nor can you get rid of. 

Remember that you do not need permission to love yourself.  You do not need the confirmation of other people to know that your natural hair is beautiful if you believe so yourself first.  The power of self love is amazing and it will repel any ignorance that is thrown your way. 


I'm a Nappstar!!!!

Hey ladies! I'm excited to announce that I'm a Nappstar over at "Rockin it Napptural!"

Shout outs to KiKi for the love! 

Click here to check out the feature

Braid Comparison

May 2011 versus August 2010

This is including a 2 inch trim back in September due to too much protein. I'm actually thinking about riding out the rest of the year in braids, but I know when I start taking these things down next month I am going to vow to never put braids in my hair again.  I ain't even going to play myself like that.

Welp. hope you had a lovely holiday weekend!

See ya,


Monday, May 30, 2011

Beady Beads

Don't know what I'm going to do with these yet, but I can't wait to rock them!

P.s: anybody know what those characters say?  I hope they ain't trying to set me up.  

Happy Memorial Day!

Hope you all are having a wonderful day today.  I was watching this video about bootlegged beauticians by the wonderful and funny GloZell on Youtube and I just wanted to share it with you all.  Hope you like it!

Think outside of the box braid

You remember that twist out fro I was rocking all last week?  Maaaaayne all that daggone hair got HOT real quick!  They claim that our hair grows up and out to protect our hair from the hot African sun way back in the day. 

You see them sweat beads on my forehead?  I don't know what they are talking about or if "they" have ever wore a fro before because the only thing all this hair on head does is make me hot!  I'm going to need for them to reexamine that theory.

All I know is that hot fro had to go!  As always, I got inspiration in the middle of the night to style my hair .  I started braiding my hair around 10:30 pm and finished at 4ish in the morning.  I saw Simon Haley enlist into WWI and finished up with Alex Haley saying, "You ole African! I found you! Kunta Kinte! I found you!"   Basically it took me almost half a century to finish.  

Products used:
Worlds of curls curl activator gel
aloe vera gel

Something new:
I didn't part straight across this time.  I just grabbed small pieces and braided my hair. Didn't even look at the back of my hair as I was parting out pieces.  I like this method way more than parting rows straight across because it is less frustrating.  As far as appearance, please let me know if you disagree but I believe that it does not look messy or that bad:


  Me thinks I will be doing this from now on.  One of the main reasons I avoid box braids is because I hate trying to part my hair.  If you haven't tried grabbing and braiding sections when you do box braids I would highly, highly, highly recommend it.

Common Question I get about my braids:

How do you get the braids to curl up?
I don't know.  My braids just magically curl up like that.  I'm not lying.  Maybe I braid too tight or something but my braids naturally form a "C" shape.  The back is actually flattened out because I slept on them last night. 

Thanks for stopping by! That's all folks!!!


Friday, May 27, 2011

Making natural hair manageable

Natural hair is manageable, and your natural hair can be manageable: you just have to be willing to work with your hair and not against your hair.  That is the key.   Natural hair and straight or permed hair act completely different and should be treated completed different. 

One habit that I think a lot of us do not understand right away if we are use of wearing our hair straight is that natural afro textured hair is tangled hair.  Once again, natural afro textured hair is tangled hair.  Don't expect to be able to run a comb through your hair on one pass.  That is probably not going to happen, and there is nothing wrong with that.  Instead, try to start at the tips of your hair, and comb up towards the roots.  If you hit a knot, stop combing.  Take your fingers and gently try to wiggle any shed hair from that knot starting as close to the bottom of the knot as you can get.  Pulling from the top of the knot often makes the knot even tighter than it was before. 

Something else to keep in mind is that natural hair does not need to be combed daily.  Many of us only detangle 4 times a month or even less than that.  I usually detangle my hair once a month or at the most, twice a month.  And when you do comb your hair, remember that it isn't for the same purposes that you would do if your hair was straight.  The main purpose should be to remove shed hair that may cause tangling and knots.  You want to remove shed hair on a regular basis so that this will not happen.  Like I said, every 1-3 weeks should be enough but you have to listen to your hair.

  If you are using combs with fine teeth, try using wide tooth combs or even better, use your fingers for combing.  Finger combing is one of the best ways to detangle your natural hair in my opinion.  Your fingers can feel what your comb cannot.  If you feel a knot, you are less likely to rip through it on accident as you might would with a comb.  It also forces you to be more gentle with your hair.  And being more gentle with your hair helps you to keep your hair as healthy as possible.

You also have to be willing to be patient.  Your regimen is not going to form over night.  I have been natural for almost 5 years now and I am still learning about my hair everyday.  Don't give up, if you are willing to be patient and learn what your hair likes and needs, it will pay off in the end.

For more tips and information about taking care of your natural hair, please check out one of these links:

Ms-gg's transitioning tips
My Routine
My Current Hair Products
More Natural Hair Tips

One Love,


Thursday, May 26, 2011

Day Four and We Still On

Main mission is to keep my hair stretched out like Gumby, I could care less about a "defined twistout."

Don't get me wrong, defined twist outs are pretty too, but I'm not going to be mad if it looks more like a regular fro by the end of the week.  Ya know?

A lot of times I get the feeling that some naturals are afraid of wearing their hair undefined.  In order to rock their hair out it has to have some kind of curl or coil.

Curls and coils are pretty, but I think that we shouldn't be afraid to embrace all of the different characteristics of our hair.  Undefined hair is purty too! :)

"Why you scurred to rock your afro for?"

To keep my hair stretched out, I first spritz it with a little aloe juice to make my hair a little bit more pliable, then I add a little moisture (right now I am using Hairveda's whipped ends cream). Next I just put the biggest twists I can into my hair and sleep.

I use to just let my twist out morph into a tightly coiled shrunken fro during the week back in the day, but I learned over the years that  that is a recipe for disaster.  Whenever I did this I would end up with single strand knots galore and tangles out the ying yang.  Yeah, not worth it.  Thank God I have pics of my shrunken hair to look back at because I will never do that to my hair again.

One love,


Wednesday, May 25, 2011

Dang, Fotki Putting a Ninja on Blast

Can't even stalk hair pics on the low  :/

Quick question: are you all still using fotki on the regular?  It seems like Fotki is a ghost town nowadays.  I remember when fotki use to be the go to site for natural hair pics at one time.  Now it seems like everyone has moved on.

My album

Why I DIY Till I Die

I am sure you can relate: your hair is the healthiest it has been in a long time.  It doesn't even look like "your" hair it looks so good.  Shoot, you even gave yourself a weave check to make sure it was real (or the ostriches did it for you)

funny gifs 

I mean you are looking fab-u-lous.  Then you go to your beautician.  You sit in that chair.  She whips out the rat tail comb with the smallest teeth that she could find in the whole shop. She then proceeds to comb your hair for no reason at all, probably just to tick you off.  All you hear is rip, snap, crackle and pop.  Once again, all of your hard work down the drain because of a stylist who doesn't know what in the world she is doing.

I've been there and done that so many times it is ridiculous.  I DIY now because if my hair gets messed up, I want to be the one to blame.  I'm not going to pay someone to mess my hair up for me!  How foolish is that?  Since I stopped perming, stopped going to the hair shops and started taking better care of my hair due to knowledge, my hair has never been healthier.

And I am not saying this to bash all stylist because there are some really good ones too who will listen and do exactly what you want.  But in my experience with beauty parlors, there are far too many stylists and not enough hair care specialist.  I believe that more women are caring about the health of their hair and not just the aesthetic appearance now.  Having your hair look good at any costs for most of us on the internet is a thing of the past.

One thing I have learned is that if your hair is healthy, it is going to look good.  Healthy hair doesn't need to be fried at 400 degrees.  Many of us are choosing healthier alternatives and I believe that many stylists should adapt to these changes in the market or else they will continue to loose business from those of us who are DIYers because of bad experiences with beauticians in the past. 

Will I ever go to a salon ever again in my life?  I can't say that I won't, but honestly, I have been doing it solo for almost 5 years now and I really have no intentions on changing.  If it ain't broke then why fix it?  My hair is not breaking, and I have a feeling the moment I step foot inside of another salon I will be fixing broken hair all over again.

So ladies I want to know, are you DIY or do you visit salons?  Are you going regularly or do you just go for special occasions?  Let me know how you feel about salons and DIY haircare.

One Love


Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Tips for growing out your nape hairs

Pic taken a few weeks ago

I think at some point in everyone's life, they have had some kind of trouble with those nape hairs.  If you were relaxed, you probably had beedeebeads and buckshots and all kinds of forests and wild life growing back there at one time.  Shoot, when I relaxed, I just knew I would have the roughest, toughest most difficult hair in the world based off of the condition of my broken off nape hair:  I was practically rocking a TWA back there anyway!  Over the years, I have found a few key points that will help to grow out those stubborn hairs at the nape of the neck:

  • Instead of twisting the base of your twists in the nape area, try braiding the base.
  This method helps to stop your nape hairs from unraveling in the back, and also holds the shed hairs in place until it is time to take the twists down. By keeping the shed hairs in place (because the braids do not allow for wiggle room the same way that twists do), this will reduce both knotting and tangling of your ends.  This has been one of my biggest secrets on how to grow out the nape hairs.

  • Check on the hairs at your nape regularly. 
Don't just put your hair in a style and forget about it, every few days, make sure that strands aren't tangling around each other, and that the nape hairs aren't unraveling if they are in a protective style.

  • Don't let the nape hairs rub up against your clothing.
  The nape hairs are the hairs that are the closest to the collars of your coats and blouses.  Make sure that whenever you are wearing a light jacket this spring or on a cool summer night, that they are not rubbing against your clothes.  Your nape hairs will thank you kindly.

  • Moisturize this section often
Especially if you break the rule above.  Oiling and plain ole moisturizer will help to reduce friction between your hair strands, which causes damage to the strands.  Keep those nape hairs moisturized and ready for war.

  • Keep on top of those single strand knots!  
 I personally remove knots as soon as I see them. I don't let them sit around and marinate and get tangled up into other hair strands as they always seem to want to do, I nip them in the bud right away.  

That's all I got for now.  Any questions, leave them below.

I'll holla


Foreign Exchange and a Familiar Hairstyle

Stayed up late washing and twisting my hair into medium sized twists, a little bit smaller than the first set, then I had to be at work at 9am the next day.

After work, I beat the heck outta this mug of mine:

 pulled out my Good Clothes Little Brother style (what you know about that 5th & Fashion? Better call your ninja ooooh), pank wooden earrings and makeup and I was ready to rock out to some Foreign Exchange EM Rock and Roll!

Oh yeah, I took the honey dip along for the ride too.  Yep.

So nice we did it twice- what you know about that Musiq Soulchild?

He cleaned up pretty goodt too my Lord  smiley icons

Anyways, here is a better shot of my hair.  It turned out pretty darn good for a rush job.  I rushed to put them in and I rushed to take them down. I used a little sweet almond oil on my fingers to take my twists down.  And instead of being adventurous with new products, I just stuck to my trusty faithful tried and true Worlds of Curls and some Aloe vera gel. 

Bug!!!  Wanna see me run faster than Flo Jo?  Tell me there's a bug on me.  I'll be out like the gout.

So here is the venue, a little spot in Richmond:

The Foreign Exchange said this was their first outdoor concert for the Authenticity tour.

The concert was supa dope too.  Outdoor concerts are the best!

Great music of course from FE, they did a mix of songs from all three of their albums, plus they mixed in some old school songs too.

And Phontigallo is a cool cat and let me tell you why: what artist do you know after rocking a 2 hour straight show is going to do a signing afterwards?  That's why I love FE/LB.  Real, down to earth people who keep it real.

Keeping it 100 hundred with the Doles lmbo.  Not even in a cup though.  Ninja said screw yo cup I want the whole can:

If you don't know who they are you are def missing out!  Go to youtube right now, right now I say, and type in "Foreign exchange Maybe She'll Dream of Me"

Matter of fact here you go:

Maybe She'll Dream of Me video by Foreign Exchange on Youtube

Don't say I never gave you anythang

One Love,

What's Next:
You know the companies are watching us when..... 

Monday, May 23, 2011

Test Drove My Twistout on Friday

I flipping couldn't make it until Sunday wearing those busted twists another day so I took them down on Friday.  Good grief.  I don't have any pics of how those joker janks looked on day seven but trust me when I say I was looking right rough. I wore those twists for a total of seven days. Not bad.   Here are the results:

 To take down my twists, I just coated my fingers lightly with coconut oil and gently unraveled my twists starting at the bottom.  I made sure my ends were coated in the coconut oil and my hair magically separated into the two separate strands and it was easy as pie from there.

I used a new product, a twisting cream from Mozeke (Babassu Twisting Cream) and I also used a little bit of Oyin burnt sugar pomade.  Something made my twists look a little dusty.

I'm not going to blame either product because I can't pin point which one it was, but one of the two left my hair looking chalky.  That's why I hate trying out new products or techniques right before a special event: you never know how the end result will be.  It's always a gamble so I try not to do it too often.  But I will say this though: between my Worlds of Curls and the Oyin and Mozeke, my hair was feeling goodt! 

So yeah, I took the twists down Friday, Foreign Exchange concert on Sunday....that was smart.  I didn't know if I wanted to put in more twists on Saturday to take down on Sunday or to just put some twists in and keep them in.

Random as heck: old but new to you butterfly hair clip. Yo!  Remember when these were hot in the late 90's?  I'm still stuck in the 90's because I loved it so much so I'm trying to bring these back with everything else.  Don't hate.

I'm outie (more 90's slang for ya, I see you giving me the side eye) 

What's Next:
Foreign Exchange Concert Flix next on deck
And also a new transitioning product for people who are considering going natural that will make you go hmmmm.....

Much Love,

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

School is OUT

And finally had enough time to do something to this head of mine.  I was looking ruff!!!

SN:  Did well this semester: three A's, 2 B's....God it goodt!

Not that I like this any better right about now, but it sho was better than what I had! 

Notice anything weird attached to my dome?  Mmmm hmm, yeah you ain't seeing thangs, that is a leopard/cheetah/some kind of scary cat print shoe string on my head!

Just clipped my ends very lightly too.  First trim since September 2010 (8 months without a trim).

Plan:  I am itching to take these twists out as I type this up.  Like forreal.  But I really want a twist out for Sunday.  The Foreign Exchange is coming to town and I want a big banging twist out for the concert.  Let me tell you, I cannot wait!  Hopefully by then I will have a better cam so I can take some footage.  Hopefully...

Alright ya'll


Saturday, May 7, 2011

New Musiq

Are you a hardcore Musiq fan and scared by that last cd, Onmyradio?  Were you left wondering if Musiq would ever be the same again?  I was.  But his new cd, MusiqInTheMagiq is dope and I would recommend it if you are a true Musiq fan.  It isn't a classic like his first 3 cd's (the fourth one in my opinion wasn't that solid) but it is definitely a good listen.

And just in case you may still be on the fence about it, here is a smooth, mellow track that you will feel deep in your soul:

Smooth right.  Mmmmm.

Friday, May 6, 2011

But Ms-gg, Didn't You Say If It Ain't Broke Don't Fix It?

I know ya'll giving me the side eye treatment right now because I'm about to cop this:

 Good ole Queen Helene has a new natural line called "Royal Curl."  I don't know what's up with the chick on the bottle.  Her hair looks a hawt mess. I guess she is suppose to be "natural." 

Any who, I've been looking at royal jelly as a moisturizing  ingredient for a while and now they have a product line that uses it.  Very interesting.

 Pet peeve already: Um, why do these companies put conditioners in these tubes?  Do they not test them out first?   Because my ghetto tail takes a knife and tries to work that last little bit of product out.  Shoot, ain't no shame in my game.  Aubrey Organics is another big offender.  Half the product still be in the bottom of the bottle and you can't get it out!  Big pet peeve of mine. 

Ingredients: Aqua (Water), Cetearyl Alcohol, Behentrimonium Methosulfate, Polyquaternium-7, Glycerin, Polysorbate 60, Camellia Sinensis Leaf Extract, Olea Europaea (Olive) Fruit Extract, Royal Jelly Extract, Simmondsia Chinensis (Jojoba) Seed Oil, Disodium EDTA, Phenoxyethanol, Potassium Sorbate, Sodium Benzoate, Benzyl Benzoate, Hexyl Cinnamal, Linalool, Fragrance (Parfum)

So, anybody else getting that product junky itch?   

You can get it here:

They Say That Everyone Has a Twin....

And Lord if it wasn't a Sister Sister moment for me!  Okay, check this-here I am browsing one of the hair boards I frequent, minding my own business, getting my daily hair porn on when I catch a glimpse of a fro. 


Hol' up....?

*Double Take*

Did this chick just steal my hair pic and post it on the innanet?  What's going on here?  

**scroll back up**

Woah.  That is not me but I be dang if me and Hairsothick's hair were not separated at birth!!!!

Crazy right?

If you want to see more pics of  Hairsothick/Loveatfirstcoil's beautiful hair, then gone head and drop by her fotki album!  Let her know I sent ya!


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